The secret behind our obsession with Facebook

I have to admit that I am an ADDICTED Facebook user.

Along with the popularity of Facebook, more and more criticism pointed out that Facebook do more bad than good in terms of social relationship.

In Rakesh Narang blog, he even listed Five Most DEADFUL Effect of using Facebook, which includes degrading school performance, higher chance of being fired, being blamed by not shown up on your “Friends” birthday, staying up all night long and exposure of privacy.

These Five Deadful Effects make me think of something I learnt in class. In the class, we learnt that there are two literacies in Social Network Site: Managing connections and Managing identities. I think these two literacies have something to do with the effects.

What else can you say if you find out that you have spent almost 700 million minutes on Facebook per month? It seems that people have prioritized Facebook before studying, working and sleeping in their life.Boredom may be the main reason behind. It is also because we have constructed much of our identity in Facebook. We have been putting up so many photos and status up there, and we are being tagged, also joining different groups, sharing living experience and personal feeling there. We are creating our Facebook Identity. We desperately want to know how many people LIKE and Comment on our photos and status, just like when we have said something in daily life conversation; we are looking forward to the feedback.


It is my Facebook, in the snap shot you can see I have circle some parts. You can see that under the photo there are people “like” my post and people can see what Fans Page I have liked. I don’t think I will post anything if I have nothing in my Friend List. My Friend may also refer to my “like” list and find out something they are interested in.

At the right hand side, there is a bar called Newsfeed. The Textbook has analyzed this feature: …… At first this was a controversial feature among users, making them feel like too much information about their actions was being broadcast to other people. The clever and oddly attractive part of this feature, however, is that it encourages the performative aspect of identity: our own lives and the lives of other become like dramas that are played out before different audience in our social network. Even the network itself, with its changing ties and relationship statuses, takes on a dramatic feel.

I can’t agree more on this, it’s like surveillance in real life what’s your friends are doing now at every second. And I am under the surveillance too, that every body will know immediately what I have done just now.


Groups I joined has told my Friends where do I belong to, in here, I am a graduate in Our Lady of the Rosary College, a group member of Tracey’s Project, a girl that went to ChengChau in 2011. It constructs part of my Identity.



In fans page, people interact with each other with the topic or information they are interested in. More than that, we can share multimedia information on the wall to let public read and watch, that’s why Facebook is an online affinity spaces where people interact to promote a particular shared interest or common goal.

I know not all FB users are mavens, some are connectors, they may forward others’ post and fans page or photos in their page. I have “Like” certain few fans pages because the newsfeed told me that my friend has already liked that fans page. The connectors not only getting me “Like” the fans page, but also let me get acquaintance with somebody that ” you may want to know”.


“Somebody you want to know” usually are people you may already known them in real life, but you are just too shy or too lazy to subscribe their Facebook. After you have sent out your Friend Invitation, you started to have connection with him/her in Facebook, that’s you can “see” him every day whenever you have your smartphone on hand. Or vice versa, people subscribe me because they saw me as mutual friend.
The affordance of Facebook is that you may have a chance to know some people that you don’t have a strong tie with, and once you two become “Friend” in Facebook, you can start to communicate with each other. Connector can spend lots of time on Facebook too, they can spend hours browsing others’ new status update and what’s new in the fan page, and it’s just like reading newspaper or flipping through gossip magazine, and we are the one who devoted our privacy to make entertainment for them. Can you imagine every single comment in your Facebook is revealed to others, it’s the same with using microphone to talk with your friends?

That’s why Facebook provides Friend Segregation; you can choose to conceal something that you don’t want mutual friend and public to know. However, in the textbook, it mentioned that most people will use the default setting of Facebook, that’s allowing maximum amount of information to the maximum amount of people. To secure oneself privacy, you got to do two things: First, reset you Privacy Setting. Second, make sure you know that person who send you a friend request.

It is a Funny video point out that Facebook is an online role play game which is extremely popular in worldwide.

In the video, Somegreybloke has divided the friends into several categories: People I sometime physically see, People I know from various websites who I’ll probably never actually meet, People from the past, like college and university schoolmates and Good looking female group.
I know it is not an official categorization, but it has demonstrates that the two network relationship: Bong and Bridging. And in the video, most of his Friends are with Bridging relationship with him only. Think about your Facebook friend list, how many Friends are real in your life?


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